Sex Therapy involves understanding your negative cycle around physical intimacy.

While you may understand your negative emotional cycle, for some, your negative sexual cycle may be a little trickier. Often times partners who withdraw from emotion find sexual contact more accessible, while partners who pursue for emotional closeness can't bear the thought of sex in the midst of distress. 

"I can't have sex unless I feel close. I can't feel close without sex."

This is common. Neither approach is bad. No one is wrong here. We can help you with this standoff.

Common Concerns with Sex Therapy

What if I don't feel comfortable talking about sex?

You and everyone else! No but really, we get it. For a long time, sex has been a taboo topic. While our therapists have plenty of experience diving into this topic and are trained to create a nonjudgmental space to explore your sexuality, their bigger goal is to help YOU feel comfortable talking to your partner about your sexual needs. Through sex therapy, you can get practice naming and discussing parts of your sexual dynamic that have felt too off-limits or awkward to broach. We're here to help you increase your comfort in communicating about sex.

Does sex therapy involve us having sex?

Sex therapy never involves any physical contact or sexual activity between you and your therapist or with your partner during session. While there are some cases where clients will get some sensate focused touch exercise homework to try with their partner, the work you do in session will be focused more around the emotional experience that shows up during sex or broaching sexual topics.

I'm embarrassed. Is this confidential?

Yes, everything in sex therapy is confidential. The only time a therapist may break confidentiality is if you are a danger to your self, others, or a dependent in your care. We aim to create a private space for you to feel safe enough to discuss pieces of your sexuality that you've felt too uncomfortable to explore or too timid to name. All sex therapy sessions meet HIPAA compliant standards.

Studies show increased security in relationships leads to more satisfying sexual experiences.

It can feel challenging to transition into a more intimate relationship without a solid foundation first. We know the more couples feel safe and secure, the more free they are to risk and explore. Good sex involves vulnerability, and surrender and attachment theory tells us this is only possible with a healthy base to start from. By participating in EFT therapy, couples can strengthen their bonds so that they can support the distress of a difficult sexual conversation or risk exploring a new sexual experience.

The more secure you are, the more you are free to play!

Don't let your anxieties get in the way of good sex. Schedule a consultation today!

We get it. Talking about sex isn't always easy. It makes sense you might want to connect with your therapist and see if you feel comfortable with them first before committing to a session. We understand that and we're here to listen to your hesitations and walk you through the process.