Having issues in the bedroom?
We know this is tender territory. Talking about sex can be difficult for many people. Sex therapy can help! Together we can understand your hesitations and figure out what's getting in the way of a more satisfying sexual experience. You aren't broken. You aren't damaged. You are normal.
Lack of Intimacy
Does it seem like you're just roommates? Stuck in a sexless relationship? No longer feeling that spark?
It wasn't always this way. Let us help you identify the barriers to your sexual connection. Let us help you reclaim your desire.
Erectile Dysfunction/Vaginal Dryness
Having trouble getting or maintaining an erection? Struggling to stay aroused? Suffering from painful vaginal dryness?
These intimate issues can cause so much pressure. Let us help you relieve the strain on your relationship.
Body image issues making it embarrassing to be intimate? Concerned about your sexual performance? Are you and your partner not seeing eye-to-eye in the bedroom?
Sex is such a vulnerable act. Let us help you to navigate these tender conversations.
Our Approach to Sex Therapy
At Cycles Couples Counseling, we believe sexuality is an important part of life. Frankly, we don't understand how you can do couples counseling without addressing it. We work to create a safe and open environment in sex therapy for you to navigate intimacy and sexuality free of judgment and shame.
We often find those who are struggling with sex are also struggling with their emotions and their relationships. Our systems weren't designed to enter arousal during active stress responses. It can be hard to feel safe enough to be physically vulnerable with your partner if your relationship feels on the rocks. Through the use of Emotionally Focused Therapy we can help you to identify the patterns that show up around your sexuality and find ways to approach situations differently.
Sex Therapy involves understanding your negative cycle around physical intimacy.
While you may understand your negative emotional cycle, for some, your negative sexual cycle may be a little trickier. Often times partners who withdraw from emotion find sexual contact more accessible, while partners who pursue for emotional closeness can't bear the thought of sex in the midst of distress.
"I can't have sex unless I feel close. I can't feel close without sex."
This is common. Neither approach is bad. No one is wrong here. We can help you with this standoff.
Common Concerns with Sex Therapy
What if I don't feel comfortable talking about sex?
You and everyone else! No but really, we get it. For a long time, sex has been a taboo topic. While our therapists have plenty of experience diving into this topic and are trained to create a nonjudgmental space to explore your sexuality, their bigger goal is to help YOU feel comfortable talking to your partner about your sexual needs. Through sex therapy, you can get practice naming and discussing parts of your sexual dynamic that have felt too off-limits or awkward to broach. We're here to help you increase your comfort in communicating about sex.
Does sex therapy involve us having sex?
Sex therapy never involves any physical contact or sexual activity between you and your therapist or with your partner during session. While there are some cases where clients will get some sensate focused touch exercise homework to try with their partner, the work you do in session will be focused more around the emotional experience that shows up during sex or broaching sexual topics.
I'm embarrassed. Is this confidential?
Yes, everything in sex therapy is confidential. The only time a therapist may break confidentiality is if you are a danger to your self, others, or a dependent in your care. We aim to create a private space for you to feel safe enough to discuss pieces of your sexuality that you've felt too uncomfortable to explore or too timid to name. All sex therapy sessions meet HIPAA compliant standards.
Studies show increased security in relationships leads to more satisfying sexual experiences.
It can feel challenging to transition into a more intimate relationship without a solid foundation first. We know the more couples feel safe and secure, the more free they are to risk and explore. Good sex involves vulnerability, and surrender and attachment theory tells us this is only possible with a healthy base to start from. By participating in EFT therapy, couples can strengthen their bonds so that they can support the distress of a difficult sexual conversation or risk exploring a new sexual experience.
The more secure you are, the more you are free to play!
Don't let your anxieties get in the way of good sex. Schedule a consultation today!
We get it. Talking about sex isn't always easy. It makes sense you might want to connect with your therapist and see if you feel comfortable with them first before committing to a session. We understand that and we're here to listen to your hesitations and walk you through the process.
Schedule an Appointment Today!
Don't wait for a crisis! Schedule an individual or couples counseling session today!
Appointments available mornings, afternoons & nights, Monday through Friday at our West LA location.