Talking about divorce can be scary for any couple. However, many of the couples in therapy come in for just this reason: the threat of divorce. It can be difficult to decipher whether this is really the end for us or if they are just protesting. At Cycles Couples Counseling we will help you to […]

How do we figure out if we’re in a cycle? Do you ever feel like you and your partner have the same argument over-and-over again? Find yourself stuck in the same relationship patterns no matter who you date? Does it feel like you end up with the same outcome, regardless of how many times you […]

Anger Management is a phrase many couples throw around in couples therapy. They insist their partner needs to go work on their "anger issues." "He's always yelling and it's terrifying." "She is so dramatic. She freaks out over everything." Frequently, partners try to shut their reactions down, by either doing one of two things—yelling back […]

Congratulations! You made it past the biggest hurdle, you and your partner decided to finally try couples therapy. This is probably one of the bravest decisions you can make. Deciding to enter therapy and share emotions with a third party can be very vulnerable. Finding a couples therapist can feel overwhelming. Okay, we’re down to […]

Why does my couples therapist keep making us do enactments? One of the most frequent protests an Emotionally Focused Therapist hears is about the “turn and share” part of therapy. In Emotionally Focused Therapy we refer to these mini impromptu conversations as enactments. “Didn’t I just say it?” “This is awkward.” “They already know.” “They […]

Society has really done a disservice to men. It’s taught them to “man up” and not show their emotions. We see this in tv, movies, in sports, and sometimes even in the family system. This message is so pervasive. Be tough! Be aggressive! Don’t cry! That’s weak! Be independent! The basic gist of all these […]

How could they want to have sex at a time like this?! Often times you may measure the health of a relationship by the sexual interactions. You’d expect if things are stressful, going poorly or rocky, that sex would be the last thing on most partner’s minds. However, for some people it’s actually the opposite. […]

Why can't we move past this?? At Cycles Couples Counseling, we frequently help couples that are longing to heal from past relationship injuries. These hurts to attachment bonds can present themselves most often as affairs or other betrayals. It’s harmful to feel your partner is not there in your time of need, or even worse, […]

How do we know when we're ready? Good question--How do you know when you are ready to stop couples therapy? Knowing when to end therapy takes careful planning. You, your partner and your therapist should take special consideration in deciding to wrap up couples counseling. Here we will offer some milestones and goals most therapists […]

Let’s talk about how you treat you. Believe it or not, your relationship with yourself has an enormous impact on your sex life. By improving your sexual confidence you can create the sex life you've always fantasized about with your partner. What is sexual confidence? Sexual intercourse is a very vulnerable action, and with it, […]