Are You Using Sex to Feel Close? Let’s face it – talking about feelings is hard. Even in our most important relationships, being emotionally vulnerable can feel like standing naked in the middle of a football stadium. So instead, some of us turn to a different kind of nakedness: sex. Some of us turn to […]
Maybe you’ve been noticing some growing tension, or some difficulty communicating with your SO. Maybe you’ve just had yet another one of those cyclical arguments stemming from goodness-knows-what about gosh-knows-what. And maybe you’re asking yourself, “When should you do couples therapy? What are the signs that my partner and I would benefit from speaking with [&he
Help! I’m Attracted to My Therapist! If you’ve ever caught yourself feeling attracted to your therapist, you’re not alone—and you don’t need to feel embarrassed. This is actually a fairly common experience. Therapy is a unique kind of relationship, and the qualities that make it so helpful—warmth, compassion, empathy, and nonjudgmental listening—can sometimes spar
Do you find yourself saying the worst thing to the person you love most in arguments? Have you ever said something truly awful to your partner—something you didn’t mean, or didn’t mean quite like that—and then immediately regretted it? Maybe you watched their face fall, or they stormed out of the room, and you were […]
You finally find the courage to bring up something that’s been bothering you—something you’ve been sitting with for days or weeks. It’s important . You’re hoping for understanding, maybe even some change. But as you start to talk, you see it happen again: your partner zones out. Their eyes glaze over, their body goes still, […]
If you find yourself saying, "My partner never wants to have sex!" then this is the blog for you! Let’s talk about something that comes up in almost every long-term relationship at some point: desire discrepancy. One partner wants sex more often than the other. One partner initiates and gets turned down, while the other […]
Wondering How to Turn Your Partner on? Okay, let’s be real for a minute. Most of us weren’t exactly handed a roadmap when it comes to sex, pleasure, and keeping that spark alive in long-term relationships. Learning how to turn your partner on might feel like a maze. Maybe we figured things out through trial […]
What to Share After Cheating: Finding the Right Balance for Healing When infidelity disrupts a relationship, honesty becomes the cornerstone of rebuilding trust. But for many couples, figuring out what to share after cheating can feel overwhelming. While transparency is essential, not all details are equally helpful in the healing process. This post explores how […]
Stop Fighting Over "Dumb Things": How to Break the Cycle in Your Relationship One of the most common reasons couples seek therapy is because they "argue over dumb things." It may start with something trivial like laundry or groceries, but somehow these arguments spiral into full-blown conflicts, leaving both partners feeling hurt and disconnected. Why […]
Many people have seen examples of couples counseling in the media. The depictions are often dramatic and some times downright cheesy. At Cycles Couples Counseling, we think this is a shame. Many of these scenes can serve as a deterrent to couples getting real evidence based support for their relationship. Below you will learn more […]
