Many people enter counseling frustrated. They’ve tried everything to change their situation, yet somehow, end up with the same dismal results. What most clients fail to notice is the patterns that contribute to these negative outcomes. Over and over again they try different ways to change their situation, only to find they end up right […]
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Boundary setting often gets a bad rap. Many people associate setting boundaries with your partner as a negative interaction. Some even panic and jump to conclusions, fearing it’s the end of the relationship. However, this could not be farther from the truth. Learning how to set boundaries with your partner can ensure a continued healthy […]
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Cyclical Arguments Most popularly, couples enter therapy for “communication issues.” They complain they can’t help but argue over stupid stuff. Sometimes it seems they just can’t see eye-to-eye on almost anything. “It seems like everything is an issue with her.” “We fight about the smallest things.” Rarely, if ever, are these cyclical arguments […]
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Lack of Proper Pleasure Education Talking about sex can be vulnerable. Unfortunately, many of us lack any knowledge beyond middle school sex ed or things witnessed in pornography. These are two very biased sources. Neither of which accurately represent female orgasms. Yes, you may know about contraceptives and STI’s, but did you learn about pleasure? […]
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Healthy vs. Unhealthy Healthy couples argue. They are two different people. They are bound to disagree. However, there is a difference between fighting and disagreeing in a healthy way. This hinges on emotional expression and healthy communication. For most couples who enter therapy, their arguments have reached unhealthy levels. One of the most common reasons […]
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Healing from an affair requires lots of open honesty to rebuild trust. It’s crucial to be responsive to your partner’s questions. However, sometimes it can be tricky to know if the answers to certain questions would be healing or harming. How do you know when you’ve given too many affair details? Asking questions is part […]
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Congratulations! You made the hardest decision yet, you’ve decided you want to try to work through this affair, stay together and rebuild trust in your relationship. This can be difficult when most of society advocates for a split. For many couples, after an affair, the only option seems to be to throw in the towel. […]
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Many couples that enter therapy are stuck in the nasty cycle of “Find the Bad Guy.” This captivating exchange of pointing fingers and giving evidence to prove your innocence can feel just as empowering as it does upsetting. This is the Blame Game. However, what most partners fail to notice is as they point out […]
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Shame is one of the trickier emotions to understand. Often times, it gets villainized. Most people want to hide their shame or get rid of it as soon as possible. However, if you want to help yourself or your partner heal shame, it’s important to first understand it. Stop Trying to Fix It! Most commonly, […]
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Shame is one of the trickier emotions to understand. It can be complex for those unaware of its purpose. While shame can serve some adaptive social roles, in some cases it can be toxic for relationships and individuals. Knowing the distinction is crucial. Shame is a social emotion. Shame is one of the most important […]
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